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Mother’s Day Reflections


Mother’s Day Reflections

Hello hello! How are you all my friends? I am back, and it’s been almost a year since my last blog post. Oh, what a year it has been. But I’m so happy to have my laptop in my laps and my fingers typing away on this keyboard and letting my thoughts drift onto the screen. I really have missed blogging. I find it therapeutic and it has become my creative outlet. So, I’ve decided to come back and start blogging regularly again.

So, why have I been gone for so long? Well, it has to do with many things, most of all related to being a new mom. I’ve been feeling isolated, tired, sad, lonely, bored, stressed about what’s going on in the world and overall just not feeling motivated. So, today I thought I’d share with you all how it has been for me this past year being a new mom and living through a global pandemic.

I’m writing these thoughts on Mother’s Day. This has become a day with a whole lot of meaning for me. Mother’s are incredible. They really are. You really don’t know until you become one yourself and realize, wow, I can do all this? I can grow a baby inside of me, I can go through labour and deliver a baby, I can breastfeed that baby and see it grow, I can do everything it takes from me to love that baby, protect that baby and just give all of my time and energy to that baby.

I really have been humbled this year. It is my body but it is the brilliance of God. It is so incredible to see what my body has been able to do this past year. I never would have thought or believed I had all of this in me. I’m truly fortunate and blessed to be a mother.

But, boy, has it been a hard year. First, when PS was born, I was in incredible pain. My episiotomy tears burned and I could barely move. Every time my baby breastfed, my nipples hurt so bad I cried each time. And I stressed about EVERY LITTLE THING.

But, it got better. My stitches healed, my nipples healed, and little by little the stress started to change. The stress is always there, but I think you get better and more confidant in handling it.

The anxiety about how to care for my baby and researching how to do every little thing. Giving a bath? I didn’t start giving a bath to my son alone until he was 1 years old. Spitting up milk? I called the nurses help line multiple times shocked to find my son spit up milk. Crying? I called 911 because my son didn’t stop crying for over 30 minutes. And then, when starting solids? I stressed every time he refused food and cheered every time I was able to sneak some into his mouth. Sleep? Oh, sleep is something I could write a whole blog post on (and I will). My body has been in a constant fight or flight mode this past year, and just now my body is starting to calm itself down.

With the global pandemic happening and being in lockdown for over a year, I have felt so lonely and isolated. I just felt stuck at home. Being all alone with your baby (although I also had my mother in law and Gursheel at home with me) it was still boring and lonely. Before your baby starts to walk and talk, they really don’t do much to interact with you.

So, I got bored. How can I play with my baby all day at home? There’s only so much we can do, before it becomes repetitive, boring and you long for social interaction. I have missed my sisters and parents so much this past year. My parents and sisters fortunately did come before the pandemic to meet PS, However, not having them around to talk to, share my struggles of being a mom, them not witnessing me being a mom and them not seeing PS growing up his first year was incredibly hard. I have been itching to hug them all again!

But, I did have a lot of love and support. When PS was born, I saw how incredible Gursheel was with him. All the fears I had of taking care of my baby, Gursheel did without thinking twice. I have built an incredible relationship with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law I have never had before. They have watched me become a mother and PS grow and they have been so helpful and supportive. It really takes a village to raise a child. Sharing the journey of being a mom with other moms is amazing. Only moms understand what it truly takes to be a mom.

I am crying writing this post, yet it feels nice writing these thoughts I’ve internalized this past year and putting them out there. So, today on Mother’s Day, I hope you realize what an incredible mom you are, because I am just started to realize it for myself. All mother’s are superstars. They go through each day, taking care of their children as their number one priority, even when they don’t feel so great themselves. And then they go through the boring days, the tiring days, the days when all their child wants is to be held. They do it all, because it needs to be done. People would say to me “it’s all worth it.” I finally get it. It’s so worth it!

I’m planning on blogging more regularly, so please check Bekaming a mom section of the blog for more posts!


How to Get Ready for a Cool Summer


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Some people think summer is the best season, while others think it’s the worst. The summer months can provide a lot of fun, but not everyone enjoys the heat. Whether you love or hate summer, or just feel kind of neutral about it, getting ready for the season can help you to have a better time as it starts to get warmer. Making sure your home is cool, changing your wardrobe and even adjusting your diet will all help you to stay comfortable and take care of yourself and your family during the summer. You can do a few things to make your summer more enjoyable.

Get Your Home Ready

A cool home is always beneficial during the summer, especially if you’ll be spending a lot of time at home instead of going out. If you want your air conditioning to keep your home cool, make sure you check that it’s working as it should be before summer is in full swing. If there are any problems, an emergency AC repair service can get it repaired as soon as possible. Even if you don’t see anything immediately wrong, getting your air conditioning system serviced will get it all in order, ready to keep your home cool in the summer.

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Plan Some Summer Meals

Wanting to eat differently during the summer is normal. You don’t necessarily want hearty meals that are designed to fill you up and keep you warm. In fact, you might have less of an appetite during the warmer months. When you’re getting ready for summer, think about what you want to eat to keep your energy levels up, even in the heat. You might want lighter meals and snacks, and perhaps foods that are full of moisture to help you stay hydrated. Lots of fruits, vegetables, and salads can keep you healthy in the summer.

Switch to a Summer Wardrobe

At some point, it’s time to put away your cold-weather clothes and switch to your summer wardrobe. This might mean wearing fewer layers but otherwise wearing the same kinds of clothes that you would wear at other times in the year. Or it could be switching to a completely different set of clothes that allow you to stay cooler, whether because they provide less coverage or they’re made of thinner or more breathable materials. You probably have some clothes that you can put into storage if you need more space.

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Take Care of Your Health

Your health is very important at any time of year but you might not think about it as much in the summer. You’re less likely to get a cold or the flu, so perhaps it’s not on your mind as much. But it’s still important to take care of your health, especially if you’re going to be spending a lot of time outdoors. Make sure you’re careful in the sun, taking steps to protect your skin, and stay hydrated to avoid overheating.

Get ready for summer and enjoy the season more when you’re well-prepared for the heat.


Designing Your Forever Home


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Designing your own home is a dream that many people have. If you are lucky enough to have that dream turn into reality then there are a few things that you should know before starting your venture. Lucky for you we have done some research and listed below a few top tips to get you started on your new home designs.

Budget, Budget, Budget

Budgeting is an obvious step you have to take when designing your home. Ensure you are as thorough with you budgeting as you can be and leave some wiggle room for any unplanned issues that might incur. 

As well as budgeting for the actual build of the property, remember to include a budget for the interior design and furniture. It is something that people tend to forget about when budgeting. You should include the following in your budget also:

  • Site Surveys
  • Insurance
  • Local authority fees
  • Landscaping
  • Connections to water mains, electricity and sewage

Incorporate Natural Light

Ensuring your property has plenty of natural light can be beneficial to the overall feel of your home. If you are finding it a struggle fitting windows into your aesthetic then think about installing a roof light, they provide a great source of natural light in hard to reach areas. Do keep in mind the maintenance of cleaning these windows, you will need to have easy access to the roof and a large ladder to clean the inside.

Think About The Future

When designing your home think about what might happen in the future. Are you planning on having children, will you need to accommodate aging family members, or in the worst-case scenario would your home be able to be easily adapted in the case someone in the home becomes disabled. Although some of these factors are more likely than others it is always better to implement the what-ifs into your design, after all this will be your forever home. 

Consider The Flow Of Rooms

Think about how you use your home, you want the rooms in your house to flow. For example, you wouldn’t position the master bedroom next to the living area and the kitchen at the other end of the home. Group your living and sleeping areas into two separate sections of the house. This means that you can entertain in the living area away from the sleeping area, resulting in reducing the amount of noise travelling whilst someone is trying to sleep. You should also consider open-plan rooms, this makes your home flow more freely, giving the illusion of a bigger space. It also allows the light to spread throughout your home more naturally.

Design Inside and Outside

When designing your home, don’t neglect the outside. You want to give the wow factor inside and outside your home. Plan for landscaping your front and rear garden, this will complete the overall feel of the property. Hire a professional landscaper to help show you how to use your outdoor space.

Looking for a smaller project? Then check out our 5 Easy Ways to Transform any Space.